Competition Perspective…Under your control or not so much?
45 years on the planet…21 years of them involved in
competition, in some form or another.
Whether competing, coaching competitors or both, I have experienced in varying degrees, situations where I lost perspective to why I
was competing. More importantly...my
sense of self.
In this series, I will discuss several aspects of events that
may occur, before, during and after competition. The topics that I will discuss are as
·Why are you competing?
·How committed are you?
·How far will you go to compete?
·How important is your placing?
·The big picture….
My goal in this series is to assist you with making the
correct decisions that will not make
you lose your sense of self, integrity and self worth. In my experience, I cannot express how many
times I questioned myself as a wife, competitor, trainer and coach. If I can prevent that series of events
happening to you, then all of it, will have been well worth it.
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Congratulations…You just did your 1st fitness/figure/bikini/physique competition…Now what? Pt 5
As the weeks go on after your competition, take your time getting back together with your friends. If you try to make up time too quickly, you can burn yourself out fast. Remember... you just went through 16 weeks(more or less) of intense dieting and training. Now it is time for you to enjoy and savor the time with your friends and family.
It would be no surprise after all the weeks of dieting and secluding yourself away from your friends and family, so you would not make anyone uncomfortable…You find it a challenge to work yourself back to meeting with them.
I remember when I was preparing for my competitions, one of my best friends, Linda said to me two months before my shows, “Give me a call after your show so we can hang out like regular people”. Believe or not, I was not offended…if anything, I understood her. I appreciated that she gave me my space to do what I had to do and not make me feel guilty for choosing to compete.
I even had to stay away from my family a month prior to the competition. During the preparation phase you need to surround yourself with positive reinforcement. Though I know my family loves me and wants me to do well, they may not have understood the whole dieting phase. You know how some cultures see plumpness as being healthy.
With my family, it was easy to get back to our usual gatherings. The Monday after my competition, my mom would make my favorite two dishes…and she made it with love and a big smile. She wouldn’t show it but I could tell she enjoyed every moment as I inhaled dinner.
During my years of competition, I have learned who my true friends are. As I mentioned above, my best friend Linda gave me the space that was needed for me to prep for my competition. She didn’t give me any guilt trips for not spending time with her. To come to think about it…I was blessed that most of my friends understood and gave me space.
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Congratulations…You just did your 1st
fitness/figure/bikini/physique competition…Now what? Pt 4
dysmorphia and depression
After 16 weeks
(more or less) of dieting, training, posing, walking, anything and everything to
do with competition, it is now Monday morning after your 1st show,
what are you going to do now? After
dedicating 6 days a week and 2-4 hours a day to training and preparing for a
competition, you may be left with a feeling of emptiness. Don’t be surprised feeling depressed too because
all the anticipation of stepping on stage to compete…the climax has come and
gone. The feeling of worthlessness may
appear as well because everybody who knows you may have been complimenting you
with an abundance of accolades. Now,
with your competition, the climax has also come and gone for your friends and
The one thing you
need to keep in mind…
are the same awesome person the week before your competition as you are after
the competition. Nothing has changed
except that you can return to your normal life.
What helped my clients and me is to plan your following year. If you decide to continue competing, you will
need to listen to the judges’ feedback and work on a plan to make the
improvements necessary. This should keep
your mind occupied. Whether reshaping
your body or revamping your off season diet, this should keep you busy and not
dwell on the emptiness of not having a competition to focus on.
factor that may occur is body dysmorphia.
The day you step on stage, you will probably be in the best shape
ever. But you have to keep in mind the
body you present on stage is not the real you.
Remember you had to carb, sodium and water deplete a few days before
your competition. Depending on your
height/size, we can be talking about a 4-8 pound difference. In addition to the depletion, you had to cut
your calories to about 1000- 1200 calories/day.
Which is not feasible, especially if you live an active lifestyle. Be prepared to gain (if you slowly add back
in the depleted items) back a few pounds a few days after your
competition. Please know that you
deserve one meal (burger/ice cream/pizza) after your competition. However, do
not eat everything in sight or your body will balloon up. If you follow my previous blog, you should be
able to maintain a comfortable and realistic weight.
thing to remember, at 115lbs (just a number I chose) as you were losing weight
is the same look as you are going back up.
It is amazing how some competitors think they look totally FABULOUS at
115lbs as you are coming down but think they look out of shape at the same
weight as you are returning to a realistic weight. Something to think about, huh?
Keep in mind you
are FABULOUS no matter where your weight ends up because you did something not
everyone can do. Be proud of your
accomplishment! You are one rocking
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